Comments on: talkin’ ’bout my generation http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/ entirely true, but exaggerated for comic effect Wed, 20 Aug 2008 16:06:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Erika http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/#comment-19662 Erika Mon, 21 Apr 2008 20:53:59 +0000 http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/#comment-19662 I am a little late but I found you through...I don't know who but I started reading your archives. I just had to comment and say, YES! I have been frowned at by other parents when I kept score or told my son what the score was during the basketball game. I love how he hussled even more when they are down. He didn't cry when they lost. He just said, "I will work harder next time". I was so glad because I know how hard he will have to work in life. I want him to start early. I am a little late but I found you through…I don’t know who but I started reading your archives. I just had to comment and say, YES! I have been frowned at by other parents when I kept score or told my son what the score was during the basketball game. I love how he hussled even more when they are down. He didn’t cry when they lost. He just said, “I will work harder next time”. I was so glad because I know how hard he will have to work in life. I want him to start early.

]]> By: Emily http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/#comment-9334 Emily Thu, 27 Sep 2007 02:09:56 +0000 http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/#comment-9334 I can remember so clearly the day my father no longer let me win and the race to bed game. I cried and cried and he picked me up and hugged me and told me that sometimes people don't win and I wasn't always going to win either. It was one of the best lessons I ever learned, life isn't fair but don't give up just because it won't always go your way. If only more kids realized that the world would be much better. I can remember so clearly the day my father no longer let me win and the race to bed game. I cried and cried and he picked me up and hugged me and told me that sometimes people don’t win and I wasn’t always going to win either. It was one of the best lessons I ever learned, life isn’t fair but don’t give up just because it won’t always go your way. If only more kids realized that the world would be much better.

]]> By: D http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/#comment-9328 D Wed, 26 Sep 2007 18:33:04 +0000 http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/#comment-9328 Last year at my son's karate school, there was a costume contest and one of the parents said, "Oh, everyone'll get prizes." The dojo said, "No." Shock on this parent's face and she managed to sputter out "Why?" and the dojo said, "Because you don't always win in life. Rewarding someone for showing up isn't a reward, it's expected that you'll show up, be on time, and do your duty." Could've knocked that parent over with a feather. Am I mean for smiling and saying "Go dojo!"? :-) Last year at my son’s karate school, there was a costume contest and one of the parents said, “Oh, everyone’ll get prizes.” The dojo said, “No.” Shock on this parent’s face and she managed to sputter out “Why?” and the dojo said, “Because you don’t always win in life. Rewarding someone for showing up isn’t a reward, it’s expected that you’ll show up, be on time, and do your duty.” Could’ve knocked that parent over with a feather.

Am I mean for smiling and saying “Go dojo!”? :-)

]]> By: Woulda Coulda Shoulda » Our job is to teach them to suck it up http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/#comment-9326 Woulda Coulda Shoulda » Our job is to teach them to suck it up Wed, 26 Sep 2007 13:28:51 +0000 http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/#comment-9326 [...] wrote a great post about this recently, and you should go read the whole thing because she says so much of what I want say, but this in particular sticks with me: If my kids [...] […] wrote a great post about this recently, and you should go read the whole thing because she says so much of what I want say, but this in particular sticks with me: If my kids […]

]]> By: Lori http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/#comment-9325 Lori Wed, 26 Sep 2007 12:27:11 +0000 http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/#comment-9325 Unfortunately, I'm reminded of a channel-surfing spree where I paused on Comedy Central. I saw a commercial for Carlos Mencia. He was saying that "participation trophies are bull..." well you get the idea. I think it would make me feel worse to get a consolation prize. "You came in dead last, so here's a little something to remember the occasion by." HA! Competition is healthy and good. I don't intend on making up crap to make my children feel like they won when they lost. I also don't understand parents letting their children win games all the time. It's not healthy! They need to learn that losing is part of life. Why not learn it when they're young and an ice cream cone can bring them back to happiness? Unfortunately, I’m reminded of a channel-surfing spree where I paused on Comedy Central. I saw a commercial for Carlos Mencia. He was saying that “participation trophies are bull…” well you get the idea.

I think it would make me feel worse to get a consolation prize. “You came in dead last, so here’s a little something to remember the occasion by.” HA!

Competition is healthy and good. I don’t intend on making up crap to make my children feel like they won when they lost. I also don’t understand parents letting their children win games all the time. It’s not healthy! They need to learn that losing is part of life. Why not learn it when they’re young and an ice cream cone can bring them back to happiness?

]]> By: Crisanne http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/#comment-9321 Crisanne Tue, 25 Sep 2007 22:15:49 +0000 http://fridayplaydate.com/talkin-bout-my-generation/#comment-9321 I remember my mom telling me that she "encouraged" my brother to play baseball because he was NOT very good at it. He's super intelligent and most things came easily for him. She wanted to be sure he knew what it was like to work for success and even still fail sometimes. I remember my mom telling me that she “encouraged” my brother to play baseball because he was NOT very good at it. He’s super intelligent and most things came easily for him. She wanted to be sure he knew what it was like to work for success and even still fail sometimes.

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