So you’ve cleaned your closet and donated all those shoes you’re not wearing — what else can you do to give back? You can write a check or collect canned goods — or you can plan something Really Big.
Sound daunting? It doesn’t have to be. In fact, giving big can be pretty simple. How do I know? Because one small gift is all it takes to get the ball rolling — and soon you’ve got a thousand diapers on the floor in your office and two hundred online auctions going and you’re making the world a better place for someone else.
Not sure what I’m talking about? Let me explain.
We’ve covered the simple ways to give back — by cleaning out closets and donating what you’re not using, and reminding your kids that giving is good. But what if you want to do more? Where do you start? I’m fortunate to count among my friends two big givers, women who did simple things that turned out to be huge. Want to know what they did?
Here you go.
The Diaper Drive
In the comments on this post, Kim mentioned Help a Mother Out, a group that provides diapers for homeless families. She wrote, “Imagine not having enough diapers for your baby! The thought horrified me.” For the past year, Kim says, “I have been working with them to establish a community of diaper-giving in the Los Angeles area. We partner with three agencies that get the diapers directly to people who simply cannot buy them. My children, 5 and 3, help me purchase diapers, load up the car, and count everything for the ‘kids who don’t have any.’ It’s just a little thing, but at least it’s something.”
I was so glad she brought that up, because Help a Mother Out is part of one of my favorite giving back stories.
I hope you all know the Rookie Moms, Heather and Whitney; these girls are precisely the kind of people that make me wish the Internet lived on my block instead of in my computer. They’re just plain good people.
In September of 2009, Whitney read about Help a Mother out and decided to do her own diaper drive. Whitney put a box outside her door and started telling people about the drive. When she had gathered 600 diapers — just half of her 1,000 diaper goal — she turned to her online communities, asking for donations via Facebook and email. “As my self-assigned deadline approached,” she wrote, “the diapers appeared at a faster pace. I was excited.”
Whitney also did what most of us hesitate to do — she flat out asked people, to their faces, to donate. “I attended a little gathering of bloggers at an E.L.F. make-up party and asked those ladies to donate. Some gave diapers and some gave me cash. (Turns out that women who have never themselves shopped for diapers are overwhelmed by the thought of choosing a size and brand.) The cash was worth even more than the face value as my husband took it to CVS and used some heavy-weight coupons and his clever math strategery to maximize the number of diapers he brought home.”
In the end, Whitney gathered 1,500 diapers on her own. “I took them to the Women’s Drop-In Center and spent the rest of the day feeling like a powerful superhero.” But that wasn’t the end.
Whitney’s friend Kimberly reached out to Safeway; the grocery chain’s marketing person offered to match Whitney’s donation of 1,000 diapers with 1,000 more.
For a total of 2,500 diapers. Wow. That’s a lot of diapers. And it’s a project that any of us can do.
The Online Auction
In August of 2008, Stephanie Nielson and her husband were critically injured in a plane crash. Nie Nie’s friends — online and off — scrambled to do what they could to help, which didn’t seem to be much beyond just praying for their recovery. “When tragedy strikes someone we love, our hearts swell, and the urge to take action is almost relentless,” wrote blogger Gabrielle Blair. “I know many of us are feeling that way about Stephanie and Christian. We want to take action. To do something. Some of us know them personally. Some of us know them through Nie Nie Dialogues. Some of us just heard about them and can’t seem to think of anything else.”
Gabby was unable to shake that feeling, that need to do something. “So here I go. I’m officially declaring next Thursday, August 28th, Nie Nie Day. The plan: instead of my usual Giveaway, I’ll be hosting a silent auction at Design Mom. With all proceeds going directly to the Stephanie & Christian Paypal fund.” Gabby hosted three auctions at Design Mom — but the amazing part was this: by the time Nie Nie day rolled around, dozens of other bloggers had organized auctions at their sites, all benefiting the Nielson family.
In some ways, Gabrielle’s project is the opposite of Whitney’s. Instead of asking people for donations and help, Gabby simply created a space for people to step in and do what they could — host an auction, write a post, buy something. No gesture was too small, and every contribution was appreciated.
(I bought a beautiful Designers Guild clutch in one auction; I use it as my everyday wallet, and each time I dig it out of my bag, I think about Nie Nie and Gabby.)
Have you ever organized a big community project like these? Let’s hear about it!

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I haven’t yet but I am working on that right now. Reading your posts (and others) has put a fire under me. I have applied to volunteer as an adult tutor. My oldest son will be passing out meals. We have donated to Books for Africa!
I don’t have much but I realize that I have WAY MORE THAN OTHERS. I really want to make someones life better. Even if it is just making baskets at Christmas to take to nursing homes. We do that at my church every year and the men and women are always so appreciative. They love the fact that someone thought enough of them to bring them new toothbrushes and razors. 
By Erika on 04.15.10 9:56 am | Permalink
Wow, thank you!
By Kim Tracy Prince on 04.15.10 6:21 pm | Permalink
I helped organize a drive for child car seats when I was in high school. I believe we collected just under a couple hundred. Clearly I need to do something powerful again-and more frequently than every (ahem) decade or so!
By txelz on 04.16.10 8:37 am | Permalink
Alex Scott was a little girl with cancer….before going to heaven, she raised over a million dollars for pediatric cancer research.
She started small; she had a lemonade stand.
When life hands you lemons, make lemonade…I cant think of a better thing to do!
Today, Alex’s Lemonade Stand is one of the leading funding organizations for pediatric cancers.
1 out of every 330 kids will be diagnosed with a childhood cancer
97% will get experimental treatment….with longer, stronger, harsher doses than an adult would get.
Because kids cancers get much less funding than adult cancers, we really have little idea about what works….thus the experiments!
You can help….have a lemonade stand….Alex’s Lemonade Stand Foundation will send you a starter kit and give you all the support you need.
My son, Andrew, just made a PSA for ALSF with Twilight star, Peter Facinelli…watch for it on TV, and please join us in helping to fight cancer, one cup of lemonade at a time!
www.alexslemonade.org
By Kim Sprague on 04.20.10 3:52 pm | Permalink
I love this post. At first it made me sigh and think about how busy I am. And then it got me thinking. I thought of Alex’s Lemonade, actually. Such an inspiring story. And I’ve been thinking hard about where and how I want my family to make a bigger impact.
In the meantime, I learned about http://www.wegivebooks.org, where you can read books online with your kids and every time you read a book, another book gets donated to a charity you select from the options on the site.
I would really love to do something with a BIG impact, like Gabby and Kim and Alex and so many others. But while I’m strategizing, I’m at least going to read to my kids and donate books in the process.
By Sue @ Laundry for Six on 04.21.10 11:28 am | Permalink
Ok, that link didn’t work with the comma next to it…
http://www.wegivebooks.org
By Sue @ Laundry for Six on 04.21.10 11:29 am | Permalink
Hooray for Kim! She’s so fabulous that she even inspired me to host a Help A Mother Out Diaper Drive.
I don’t think we always need to go big with our efforts. That can make it intimidating to even get started. I have a personal blogger give-back program working with a group of immigrant moms in my community through a local parent center. With my guidance, these women have created http://www.momfromanothercountry.blogspot.com
Not only are the women building their English Language Literacy, but they are building keyboarding and other tech skills. I am so energized by my work with these wonderful bloggers and so proud of each post.
By kim/hormone-colored days on 04.21.10 11:55 am | Permalink
I haven’t done anything big, but it sounds like the perfect summer challenge for me!
By Kimberly on 04.22.10 10:18 am | Permalink
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