Comments on: I don’t know that ’sexy’ is the word I would use http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/ entirely true, but exaggerated for comic effect Wed, 20 Aug 2008 15:46:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Susie http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/#comment-800 Susie Thu, 22 Sep 2005 02:23:00 +0000 http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/#comment-800 Is there anything more exhausting than 'all or nothing'? And adding 'sexy' on top of that? I need a nap. Is there anything more exhausting than ‘all or nothing’? And adding ’sexy’ on top of that? I need a nap.

]]> By: Susan in Tulsa http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/#comment-790 Susan in Tulsa Wed, 21 Sep 2005 13:54:00 +0000 http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/#comment-790 The playgroup/day care days seem very far away when they're big, hairy, and know more about math and world history than you do. By the time your kids are in their mid to late teens, the mommy wars are forgotten, you're all just praying that they make it out of their teen years alive and that college doesn't bankrupt you. Other parents are your support group then, most of them. I do have one acquaintance whose kids are the age of mine who told me a year ago with a straight face, "my girls have never given me a moment's anxiety." I beat the crap out of her (not really :-) (but I think she's lying). The playgroup/day care days seem very far away when they’re big, hairy, and know more about math and world history than you do. By the time your kids are in their mid to late teens, the mommy wars are forgotten, you’re all just praying that they make it out of their teen years alive and that college doesn’t bankrupt you. Other parents are your support group then, most of them. I do have one acquaintance whose kids are the age of mine who told me a year ago with a straight face, “my girls have never given me a moment’s anxiety.” I beat the crap out of her (not really :-) (but I think she’s lying).

]]> By: Mary P. http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/#comment-789 Mary P. Wed, 21 Sep 2005 11:37:00 +0000 http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/#comment-789 When I was in my twenties and staying home with my first child, I was quite convinced that my choice was the best choice, and that those FTW mommies were making do with second best.<br/><br/>However, now I'm working full-time, and my clients are working mommies. Now it seems clear to me that the Great Divide to which I once subscribed is artificial. Mothers are mothers are mothers; children reared by both "types" of mothers are equally loved and loving, equally prone to misbehaviour and quirks; kids are kids are kids.<br/><br/>The divide is, in part, a function of our own insecurities: SAHM's who feel that their minds and skills are atrophying (is that a word?), who feel out of touch with the Real World; FTWM's who fear that they are denying their children something irreplaceable. Insecurities bolstered by the truth that there is some justification to all those concerns, because no human choice can be perfect.<br/><br/>And then, of course, there are those mean-spirited or just plain thoughtless folk who prey upon those insecurities. And that, too, is human nature. When I was in my twenties and staying home with my first child, I was quite convinced that my choice was the best choice, and that those FTW mommies were making do with second best.

However, now I’m working full-time, and my clients are working mommies. Now it seems clear to me that the Great Divide to which I once subscribed is artificial. Mothers are mothers are mothers; children reared by both “types” of mothers are equally loved and loving, equally prone to misbehaviour and quirks; kids are kids are kids.

The divide is, in part, a function of our own insecurities: SAHM’s who feel that their minds and skills are atrophying (is that a word?), who feel out of touch with the Real World; FTWM’s who fear that they are denying their children something irreplaceable. Insecurities bolstered by the truth that there is some justification to all those concerns, because no human choice can be perfect.

And then, of course, there are those mean-spirited or just plain thoughtless folk who prey upon those insecurities. And that, too, is human nature.

]]> By: MIM http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/#comment-788 MIM Wed, 21 Sep 2005 03:08:00 +0000 http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/#comment-788 Oh, and I forgot to mention how sexy I look right now with sweet potato vomit on my pants. Oh, and I forgot to mention how sexy I look right now with sweet potato vomit on my pants.

]]> By: MIM http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/#comment-787 MIM Wed, 21 Sep 2005 03:06:00 +0000 http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/#comment-787 Girl, I wrote a little somthin' somethin' about the mommy wars a while back. It's buried somewhere in my blog. People didn't seem to get it. It was all metaphorical . . . kinda. Girl, I wrote a little somthin’ somethin’ about the mommy wars a while back. It’s buried somewhere in my blog. People didn’t seem to get it. It was all metaphorical . . . kinda.

]]> By: Jenorama http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/#comment-785 Jenorama Tue, 20 Sep 2005 21:47:00 +0000 http://fridayplaydate.com/i-dont-know-that-sexy-is-the-word-i-would-use/#comment-785 I covered that piece for Blogging Baby-- I couldn't believe how privileged those women are. So presumptuous. Hope they get everything they want as easily as they think they will get it. I had the hardest time explaining to my undergraduates in Freshman Comp. that the very expectation that a) they could choose and b) they expected to enjoy their careers is a highly priviliged position. I covered that piece for Blogging Baby– I couldn’t believe how privileged those women are. So presumptuous. Hope they get everything they want as easily as they think they will get it. I had the hardest time explaining to my undergraduates in Freshman Comp. that the very expectation that a) they could choose and b) they expected to enjoy their careers is a highly priviliged position.

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